Don’t give away your gift of monogamy.

Guys have options. Why can’t girls have options? Don’t get me wrong, I am not promoting “ubufebe” here but i'm saying Feba nge order, anyway it’s an honest question. There’s no rule against it right? So why are we judging girls with options and high 5 guys with options, that’s not fair.

I certainly believe (sometimes) that a girl is allowed to have options as with guys.

So many heartbreaks, so many heartaches and this could all be prevented by less labelling and having options. If girls took time to choose the right partner, the heartbreak problem is solved, you probably wondering, “what does he mean, all guys and nice and cute during courtship” Well, every girl likes atleast 3 guys, so if one of those guys started asking you out and end up dating… flirt with the other guy that you like and date him, but you don’t have to sleep with guy number 2, he is there for comfort and make you feel good about yourself and whilst doing that he shows you the real him that you end up really loving but you still have guy number 1, relax though and stay calm.

Loving 2 people is easy but choosing the one you fall inlove with is not your decision to make, it just happens.

So back to guy 1 and guy 2… a NICE pair of shoes and a spare…where am I going with this? You can always fit in guy 3 for fun…THERE’S NO WAY to find a perfect man, he doesn’t exist but you could at least try find a good man, we exist in these 3 guys ....ok 2 guys...oh well . Anyway between a pair of shoes and a spare you certainly can be able to find the right man. Yes you can have time for all three darling, because the one who has the most power is the one who is less emotionally driven…You been hurt for too damn long by now you should be able to control your damn feelings.

Ad Break: It’s good to date outside you comfort zone.

Anyway, 3 guys neh, or two, but two is too few. So you have guy 1 right and you guys are cute and stuff but you flirt with 2 and date him. So, now rotate guy 1 and make him guy 2 and guy 2 make him guy 1, you basically rotate the one you like less to a desirable position, as you get familiar with guy 3, rotate him and make him guy 1, by doing this guy one gets more attention all the time and you have guy 2 and 3 vying for your attention and your self esteem will sure damn level out.

Ad Break: get rid of your dating “musts”

So you keep rotating these guys until you find you favourite and drop 1 and leave two. Until you find you favourite in the last two.

The most important reason to date multiple men is …………..(quick ad Break: sleep with two incase one sucks in bed)………the number one way to find what you looking for, best way to avoid settling with a dick of a guy and a “must”have…Yazi futhi lendaba yo “must have is the one cause of heartbreak, you settle for nonsense that isn’t emotionally good for you but because you already have this mental list in your head of a “must have” you settle. Dumb girl. 

Anyway, the power of choice is important and dating multiple guys will help you find that one person that is great for you.

Don’t give away your gift of monogamy.

Feba nge order.