According To Mother and I.

I just had one of those conversation again with mother, we were discussing women, well lets just say mother wants best for his son and so she will always bring up this subject. 

Now before I discuss what we spoke about, note that she is a single mother, very educated, has a lovely job, and NOT dependent on a man to provide for her. A lot of you were  brought up by single mothers who are very successful, without depending on a man, and yes some of you have turned up pretty well, you strive for success.

Now Mother says to me, yazi mtanami  "women are very stupid and I say this as a woman, some women are very stupid" she goes on to say - "If your woman comes up to you and asks you for money to do her hair and nails, that girl is not for you, if she sulks when you say you don't have money, that gal is not for you..a material girl is not a keeper any girl that wants to be financially dependant on you is not a girl for you but if you get a woman that can call you up and invites you to go out for lunch and she pays, now thats a woman for you (notice the change from girl to woman)"  these were mothers words...and all the time we have this talk when she tells me about woman. we been having these convos from an early age and that is why up until this day i can never date someone who is dependent on me to feed her habits.
What more interesting is that the same celebrity women you look up to have made it on their own without depending on a man

I work hard , and its not about being stingy its about knowing when to provide for your woman as a man.

A woman knows when to allow her man to spend on her and a Man knows when to allow himself to spend on his woman.

And in honest truth no woman wants to breed a Khanyi Mbau, As a man or woman one can just picture that look on a Mothers face knowing that her daughter is a whore and  she will do anything for money. Well its her choice yes, but if she was educated it would be different I say.
Now  DON'T get me wrong, I am NOT saying that a Man shouldn't spoil his woman but what I'm say is He should know when to do it.


I have been called stingy,  but i would rather be called that than have to stay with someone who knows no value for money and knows no values of being a good woman to a man.

Like i always say "umuntu wesfazane uyayazi indawo yakhe" and if you don't understand this than you've got alot to learn about being a woman and not be "The Modern Woman" when it comes to your man.

Some of your parents are happily married for close to 30 years and happy because your mother knew her place as a woman when it came to her man and love, and some of you might say 'but times have changed" yes it has, but love hasn't changed.

For as long as this behaviour continues, Men will continue to look at women like poultry, beef, seafood and swine. When we first see them, we determine whether we will buy the rib-eye, settle for the fish sticks or avoid the pork within five seconds. It’s about as wrong as the porn problems we pretend we don’t have.