Wednesday 12 August 2015

Curro School and it's racism

This a originally by Khaya S Sithole. Taken from his Facebook wall.



"In 2002, Bridget Majola delivered a speech titled 'The condition of native is a nervous condition'. Since then, my interpretation of racial discourse has been influenced by the appreciation that removing the physical & structural manifestations of racism is nothing more than a tentative step towards fixing the problem. What remains an enduring challenge is to enable the mind of one race to acknowledge its scope of privileges & inherent advantages that exist within a broken society. Until there is transformation of the mind itself - the concept of discrimination persists. Curro School recently found itself at the epicentre of racial tension due to its policy of splitting students on the basis of 'language' (the linguistic defence to racism). So naturally - Curro decided to fix its racist image by creating a 'Zulu Day' at their Hillcrest campus. Then it went wrong. Curro decided to tell its white students that on this Zulu day, they needed to collect all their gardeners & domestic workers & bring them to the school. (The ability to avoid vomiting as I write this is a testimony to my elevated capacity for tolerating nonsense).
5 weeks ago, I stormed out of an AGM when 1 eminent member decided to express that white people couldn't give a damn about transformation. Days later, one of my brighter students highlighted that the problem was not primarily the man himself but the fact that he & I were part of a forum that had made him believe that such statements were acceptable to begin with.
How Curro has managed to exist within such an utopia of manufactured ignorance is a problem with Curro itself - & an even bigger problem with a society that has allowed Curro to believe that racial reconciliation simply requires them to teach children that a grand parade of black workers onto a campus they could never afford is the 'racism fix'.
That's the easy part. The challenging part of this is that if I had started off this diatribe by saying '100 gardeners & domestic workers were in my office this morning...' - every honest black person reading that statement would expect the 100 to be black. So who is more damaged in this society?"

Now this me of the blog I did not so long ago "Racism is a White Problem"

Monday 9 February 2015

Don’t give away your gift of monogamy.

Guys have options. Why can’t girls have options? Don’t get me wrong, I am not promoting “ubufebe” here but i'm saying Feba nge order, anyway it’s an honest question. There’s no rule against it right? So why are we judging girls with options and high 5 guys with options, that’s not fair.

I certainly believe (sometimes) that a girl is allowed to have options as with guys.
So many heartbreaks, so many heartaches and this could all be prevented by less labelling and having options. If girls took time to choose the right partner, the heartbreak problem is solved, you probably wondering, “what does he mean, all guys and nice and cute during courtship” Well, every girl likes atleast 3 guys, so if one of those guys started asking you out and end up dating… flirt with the other guy that you like and date him, but you don’t have to sleep with guy number 2, he is there for comfort and make you feel good about yourself and whilst doing that he shows you the real him that you end up really loving but you still have guy number 1, relax though and stay calm.

Loving 2 people is easy but choosing the one you fall inlove with is not your decision to make, it just happens.

So back to guy 1 and guy 2… a NICE pair of shoes and a spare…where am I going with this? You can always fit in guy 3 for fun…THERE’S NO WAY to find a perfect man, he doesn’t exist but you could at least try find a good man, we exist in these 3 guys ....ok 2 guys...oh well . Anyway between a pair of shoes and a spare you certainly can be able to find the right man. Yes you can have time for all three darling, because the one who has the most power is the one who is less emotionally driven…You been hurt for too damn long by now you should be able to control your damn feelings.

Ad Break: It’s good to date outside you comfort zone.

Anyway, 3 guys neh, or two, but two is too few. So you have guy 1 right and you guys are cute and stuff but you flirt with 2 and date him. So, now rotate guy 1 and make him guy 2 and guy 2 make him guy 1, you basically rotate the one you like less to a desirable position, as you get familiar with guy 3, rotate him and make him guy 1, by doing this guy one gets more attention all the time and you have guy 2 and 3 vying for your attention and your self esteem will sure damn level out.

Ad Break: get rid of your dating “musts”

So you keep rotating these guys until you find you favourite and drop 1 and leave two. Until you find you favourite in the last two.

The most important reason to date multiple men is …………..(quick ad Break: sleep with two incase one sucks in bed)………the number one way to find what you looking for, best way to avoid settling with a dick of a guy and a “must”have…Yazi futhi lendaba yo “must have is the one cause of heartbreak, you settle for nonsense that isn’t emotionally good for you but because you already have this mental list in your head of a “must have” you settle. Dumb girl. 
Anyway, the power of choice is important and dating multiple guys will help you find that one person that is great for you.

Don’t give away your gift of monogamy.


Feba nge order.